Ok, time to reevaluate.
What am I doing? What do I want?
The experience with the first dating site left me bewildered in a way that made me question what I was doing. How easy it would be at this point to fall back into my past pattern of feeling rejected by men, then running to women for companionship. This was the easy path. It always had been.
Women judge less on your appearance, listen more to your emotions, and understand “tragic” week, when all you want to do it eat chocolate, watch sappy movies, and cry.
Problem was, something was always missing. I knew I wanted to be with a man and even though it had been many years since I had that experience, I knew I wanted to explore that possibly again. So, I renewed my promise to myself that I would not give up this time!
But. One thing was for sure.
I needed a new dating site.
After taking a couple of weeks to lick my wounds and get over my disappointment with the BBW site, I did a little research on the other options. At least the ones I had heard about so far.
What I found was overwhelming.
The ones I knew about were Plenty of Fish, Match.com, and eHarmony. I also had heard about other various sites through friends and coworkers, called Tinder, Grindr, and Bumble, but I had no idea there were so many options.
I decided to narrow it down to the few I had at least heard of.
Match.com: Was already familiar with this one.
Bumble: Found this one a little intimidating. The woman makes the first move? The opportunities for rejection there seemed endless.
Plenty of Fish: Although I had a close family member find her husband on POF, that was over 10 years ago, and I had heard many horror stories since, so I quickly checked that one off my list.
Grindr: I know.. I know… It’s a hook-up site for gay men. I know that NOW.. BTW, do not Google this from your work computer. I’m just sayin’.
Tinder: A possibility.
eHarmony: Felt like too much work and was a little too serious.
Ultimately, I decided to give Match a try.
I liked the way you are matched based on mutual interests and criteria. Including body type.
You can click on profiles and see what body type they are looking for, before ever deciding to swipe yourself.
Not to mention, the selection of men was MUCH more desirable.
Here, I found more professional men, more liberal men, more successful men, and men with more complete profiles that actually had something interesting to say.
I also learned that whenever you join a new site for the first time, your profile rises to the top. You are fresh meat, and you will get a barrage of messages and likes all at once. It can be quite overwhelming.
But this time I was much wiser. I was not going to fall for the………
“Yes, this is she.”
“Yes. Yes. I see. Yes, I did in fact make a credit card purchase with Match.com.”
“No. It is not fraudulent.”
“I. I know this is not my normal spending pattern, but……. I understand. Thank you.”
Great. Now even Capital One is judging me for my love-life inadequacies.
Oh well. They don’t know me! Who are they to criticize my life choices!
Shaking off the call, I was once again ready to start a new adventure.
Only this time around I was smarter and opted for the 6-month value-added subscription.